: Or perhaps someone inquired about that unknown gentleman who seemed to be one of the immediate family, and your sister replied, "That is my fiance. What with my poor brother-in-law's illness, we haven't had a chance to tell people." Something in between the two, Miss Manners is guessing. Deaths often bring together people who have not seen each other for a while and, just as many no longer dress for the occasion, those who should be mourners often fail to adjust their ordinary social manners for...

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